Sunday, April 01, 2007

Gay Porn...

I love my gay porn but I also have doubt about it...

We all know that porn is like a fairytale as everything is set for perfect- ion. the story is usually straightforward and opposed to reality, the guys are always up for a fuck or suck without hesitation, the sex is always variedly steamy and, of course, the actors are ALWAYS young and hot, and they can be gay, bi, or even straight!


I have no complaint about good-looking guys doing porn (as I posted them on this blog all the time) because I know THEY are the sole reason to keep me coming back for more, the only thing that really bugs me is that if they are all so physically attractive, why do they choose to be a porn actor in the first place? Let's just put it this way, if I have the beautiful body and gorgeous face like Alex Orioli from BelAmi, I think I will pursue my career in fashion modeling instead of porn acting (if I have the choice). So, am I missing something here?

On top of that, while a majority of gay porn actors look so perfect on screen, do you think gay porn makes gays more unequal because it sort of promotes an ILLUSION of gay males as young, muscular, good-looking and able-bodied? This fantasy is quite at odds with the bodies that most real gays have, and being fed a diet of stereotypical images of perfectly buffed men with large cock, do you think some gays may develop unrealistic expectations about their own bodies?

To me, I don't take this too serious as I believe we are all born unique and special, but yet who doesn't want to have a more attractive body like Riley from Fratmen? Therefore, whenever I watch porn and see a guy with a body that I am attracted to, I will use his physique as my motivation to go to the gym!

Oh well, I hope I didn't upset anyone with my comments but I am just curious about the mind of a gay porn actor (or maybe I secretly wanna be one). So if you have any answers or suggestions for my questions, please feel free to share them with me!

5 comments:

alaskarob said...

Hey Pr8,
Thanks so much for your refreshing comments about gay porn. I whole-heartedly agree with you and sometimes I wish more gay men would see gay porn in the same light. When I was in my late teens and was confused about my own sexuality, porn definitely did not help my confusion - if anything, it compounded it. It is a 'fairytale' portrayal (and sometimes that description is far too generous). And how can one expect to develop healthy ideas, self-esteem and body image with the amount of stereotypical crap that porn feeds us.
As for the hot porn stars, why aren't they having sex the men they love? I believe they have filled their lives with the quick-fix of sexual satisfaction while long lasting fulfillment of a meaningful relationship remains unanswered. In that respect, it is a vicious cycle.
Yeah, I looked at some porn when I was younger, but when it didn't answer my questions, when it didn't help my self-esteem, when it only made me feel crap and inadequate as a young gay man, I cut it out of my life. I never looked at porn, and what's more, I never missed it! Today I am in a committed and loving relationship that's really important to me. Yeah, nowadays my partner and I look at porn occasionally, just for fun. And that's all it is now, just a bit of fun within the boundaries of our relationship. And I can see through all the crap that comes along with porn because I know that I have a wonderful man who loves me irrespective of the fact that I do not look like a pornstar. I can be myself, I can be happy with my own body image because I don't have to live up to any of the stereotypical crap that gay porn makes young gay men think that they have to!

Nigel (Essex) said...

Hi Pr8-
I have a slighty different take on this from alaskarob;
I found porn a huge help when I was growing up. All those positive life afirming images from the early days of Falcon were at such odds with the generally negativity surrounding me. I could see I wasn't the only one who wanted to do all those naughty things - and how much fun they were in the sunshine! Since then porn has been a constant friend and supporter! The 'unrealistic' and 'unattainability' nature of the boys isn't an issue for me, the whole thing is just a fantasy to be enjoyed on that level. I'll never have the body of a Fratmen guy or get to romp with the gorgeous creatures in eurocremes wonderful Wet Dreams - but they are a joy to behold and brighten my life along with so many other riches life has to offer. Don't try to over analyse - just celebrate and enjoy!! Luv, Nigel.

Hooperfan said...

I believe a lot of guys get into porn for the money. Even for so called straight guys they can make more money from gay porn than straight. For the younger guys it's a way to pay for an education (especially in America and maybe the European guys like the Bel Ami models).

Anonymous said...

Pr8, you need to go to a Gay strip bar or club and observe the strippers and chat with them over a peeriod of time. You'll quickly learn they generally are satisfying their own Exhibitionism Fetish. There are definite thrills to doing that, and being adulated and sexually desired. The same holds true for many of the chaps that stay on doing repeated Gay Porn stuff, it's more than pay that their after. Also, it gives guys who are Bi and don't know it or understand it, a cover allowing them to sexually experiment with a ligitimizing excuse (the pay is good, the work is easy and I need the money!)
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Dhani said...

this is a very interesting post & something that is rarely discussed. why do gorgeous young guys get into porn? well, from the research that i've done(masturbating to porn often)& from what i've read here & there it seems to me that as far as the euro guys(Bel Ami, Eurocreme etc.)are concerened it's all about money. most of these men are straight & are from very impoverished countries. if i lived in a tiny village & had 12 siblings & slept on the floor every night & one day saw some American guy with a camera & a wad of cash in his hand, i'd jump at the chance to do whatever he said. taking it in the ass raw for instance? damn that smarts, but so does going hungry. & while it's so sad knowing that this is often the case for many of these lads, it's also, in a sadistic way, kind of a cheap thrill. kinda like how the lap dance is hotter when the stripper is crying. i know, that's awful.
also, in these other countries cultures, sex & the myth of beauty/lust is much different.
most of these young studs see fucking another guy as a 9-5 job. no strings, no love, just a job that pays very well.
that kinda takes the air out of it, but, porn is like you said, merely a fantasy. it's all about taking the bad with the good i suppose.

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