Monday, April 23, 2007

Open Relationship...

Yet another interesting (and cute) episode of Undressed and it gets me to think again...


:: PART 1 ::


:: PART 2 ::

I've never had a gay relationship but after watching this, it makes me wonder if most gays think it's a 'norm' to have an open relationship. I'm sure some say it's ok to play with a third person, and others say it's ok to play with someone even 1-on-1. I mean, why?

What has ever happened to the meaning of true love and commitment? It just seems to me that there's a higher percentage amongst gay people than straight people. Yes, I do know straight couples do mess around outside their relationships, but do you agree it's more common with gay couples? Probably because we don't tend to have kids like straight married couples, or some of us lose the 'spice' with the same partner over time, but are these good excuses for sleeping around?

At the end of the day, I guess everyone has their own philosophy of love and relationship and it's our very own choice, how to go in relationship. But for me, I am hoping to look for someone who wants a committed relationship - meaning monogamous. If he comes along, that's great, and if he doesn't, I just figure that that's the way it was meant to be but I don't intend to bed-hop. Why? Well, because I still believe in true love. Enjoy the show!

5 comments:

Jeremiah said...

"open relationships" stop at the door when marriage moves into vision.

Monogamy and Open relationships will be the end of the gay community as we know it, because how many couples will take that dive into One on One relationships and/or marriage???

I've never cheated on my hubby before we got married nor now, that we are married.

This is another issue that Gays will have to decide on if they are ever to get a foothold into society by becoming upstanding and trustworthy gay men in community.

Because you know the straights cannot get it right - because they cheat too and they justify it away. The same goes for the gays too...

Cheating is still cheating no matter what you call it - if you are in relationship with another, gay or straight.

The straights just wait for us to step outside the norm so that they can point fingers at us and say "see even they can't NOT cheat on one another!" No legal marriage for them either...

Like the good Dr. Phil says:

"If you have to go outside your relationship for anything - then you surely don't have a right to be IN a relationship to begin with."

Jeremy
Married in Montreal
http://jeremiahandrews.wordpress.com/

lancelot90 said...

I think it's easier to build up the true love between gay people, and of course it's easier to get out of the "track" for gays…Actually, I think many straight couples remain their reationship just because of kids and family, however, if two gay people could stay together without any limits, it's possible for them to stay for the whole life because that's the pureset love. But no matter how, I just can't accept anyone who already has a boyfriend or husband to do mess around outside their relationships……

about a boy said...

i dont care for open relationships. too messy. unfortunately the 2 boyfriends ive had in this city didnt feel the same way.

Anonymous said...

I am sure this will upset those who are in "open" relationships, but I have always believed that those who want this type of relationship lack a certain amount of maturity.

It takes a daily effort, and hard work to maintain a monogamist relationship. I have experienced both types of relationships and the benefits and joy of monogamy far out weigh the freedom of an open relationship.

neptune said...

it's interesting...