Sunday, July 01, 2007

To Hug...

When I was a youth, I avoided hugging whenever possible, even at obligatory family gatherings, preferring a handshake. I wasn't yet old enough to even think about what circumstance might transpire before I would hug a... girl. And hugging other boys? Forget about it!

It wasn't until some years later that I learned to enjoy the openness of embracing loved ones and close friends (both male and female).

There are certainly different kinds of hugs, as many as there are kinds of kisses. It's all about intention. From culture to culture, the hug is a form of connection, affirmation, affection, greeting, farewell. There are hugs and kisses, hot clinches and just friendly pats on the back. There are melding hugs, quick hugs, and hugs that linger long enough to take a deep sigh... and some of us even hug trees!

Hugs are, most of the time, a non-sexual way of joining, of becoming one, of giving and receiving, if only for a few moments. However, some among us, for reasons of their own, remain uncomfortable with hugging, especially with members of the opposite (or same) gender or those who are not so close to, and are quick to reach out and offer a handshake ranging from the tepid fingertip hold to iron grasp.

To hug or not to hug? Each of us has the right to define our own boundaries in this arena. To me, hugging requires a leap of faith, and act of courage.


jemmytee said...

Hugs to you, muffin. And kisses, too.

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mik said...'re so beatiful.....australian boy...

Not so Single Guy said...

people dont hug enough! My work colleagues need to be hugged

YarravillePaul said...

well said!! *hugs*