Wednesday, December 05, 2007

Do You Believe In...


Ever After Happily by Jay Brannan

Now here's a post I extracted from the fabulous Single in the City but I sorta modify a few things to make it more fairy tale like. Neverthe- less, it is actually a very common relationship dilemma (aka 'Catch-69' according to Single Guy himself) amongst nowadays single gay men. It is a story that most of us can somehow relate to.


Once upon a time in the far far land of Evilleland, a young inexperi- enced hunter named Steele accidentally crossed path with Alexander (aka Lex), the handsome gay Prince of Evilleland, while he was hunting for bears in the wood. In the beginning, both men only exchanged their hunting experience and skills but soon they found they had a lot more in common other than their love of hunting.

After several meet ups and hunting trips, both Steele and Lex become the best ever bear hunting couple (and friends) in Evilleland's history. At the same time, their hunting trips began to feel much more special, in fact, they grew closer to each other than ever before. Having said that, Steele was new to the whole gay scene. He was not into casual sex and was looking for a relationship.

As always, Lex offered to help him train and meet up to discuss hunting. As they kept getting to know each other, Steele realised that Lex was actually more interested in sexual training then talking or actually training for that matter. Lex was beautifully hot and fit... a true Prince Charming. Steele started to like this guy and he was falling for him.

But like every fairy tale, there were bad characters and Steele had been burned by the fire of Evilleland's gay dating scene. The past few guys he had met he had always had sex with them in the first date. Then he never saw these guys again. So he had feeling for Lex but his dilemma was whether he should sleep with him in the first date and risk not seeing him again OR not sleep with him on the first date and risk not seeing him again for not sleeping him. Steele was caught in a classic curse of Catch-69. Dammed if you do, but dammed if you don't.

Can there be a happy ending to his story? Or is it a cycle of not so fairy tales? Do we ever get our Prince Charming? When we were young, the Prince would wake the Sleeping Beauty and they lived happily ever after. But now, there is no Prince Charming and no one is waking up from their crystal meth induced commas!

This story is told over and over by gay guys around the world. Why is it that we meet someone once and never see them again? Why do we run away from a potential relationship? Maybe it is because we have seen or read too many fairy tales. Happy endings and living happily ever after takes lots of time, patience, therapy, and work! Are you willing to give in and scarify for love? Well, it's YOUR story and no one else can write it the way you can.

5 comments:

Single Guy said...

Wow...thanks for the mention!!! It's a dilema every queen faces!

spidre said...

Props for the use of Jay Brannan. He's kind of amazing.

Trevor said...

I watched "Enchanted" that day...
On my mind...There is always a fairy tale about a girl dreaming for her Prince Charming...

And I'm wondering...
Would a boy like us meet up with a Prince and live happily ever after?
Well...perhaps, we have came across too many typical fairy tales about princess and prince...But never about a couple of prince...

With a heart of love...I
'm still waiting for the "dreams comes true"...

But back to reality... Will this ever come true?
Perhaps...Who knows?

lostinlove said...

I think it's a dilemma humans face, but one that is particularly tough for gay men since the dynamics are often solely revolved around sex.
People are scared and also a little lazy. A good relationship does take work, time, patience, but that doesn't mean it has to be tedious.
I am tired of men acting like gay men don't deserve love, or the idea that love is silly and not worthwhile.

jared said...

Believe it or not, but here in the states a teacher made headlines with his reading of a gay fairytale to his 2nd grade class a few years back. I don't remember what happened with it, but at least one exists.


"Happy endings are just stories that haven't finished yet."

-----Angelina Jolie to Brad Pitt in "Mr & Mrs Smith" during the tango-----