Sunday, December 09, 2007

Swimming With...

Speaking of me having a crush on my straight workmate James. I wanna know how many of you actually reveal your love and passion to your straight crush?

I recently chatted with a blog reader who told me that he had just lost one of his friends (which had also completely ruined his plans for New Year's Eve) simply because he had the courage to show his fondness for his straight mate. Unfortunately for him, it was a 'wrong' move and it all went downhill.

But SERIOUSLY, how can you possibly know what is right and what is wrong when you really have a feeling for someone especially when you are gay and he is straight? To me, having a crush on a straight guy is like swimming with a shark. If you play careful, keep a safe distance, and don't step over the line, everything will be nice and smooth, and you can still have a good time with it. However, if you make a wrong move (even a slight one), it can end up pretty nasty.

Having said that, there's always an exception and the perfect 'fairytale' would be something like this:

"I had a straight crush, I befriended him. For two years I became his best friend and I finally told him that I was gay and I hoped that it won't affect our friendship. Which to my surprise, he told me that he had waited so long for me to come out to him, and apparently he knew about it. Now, I not only have a best friend that accepts me, I also have my straight crush that let me touch him, kiss him, and hug him. Sometimes we even joke about me being gay, but at least I don't have to lose him."

Awww, isn't that lovely? Unfortunately, I am one of the kind of people who don't like to take risk, therefore I don't think James will ever find out I have a crush on him (unless he asks me about it). I know some people may think that I should forget about him, that he will never return the feeling, that I am just wasting my time. Well, that's ok with me if being around him makes me happy, makes me feel good, and who knows what the future holds? Someday, I 'may' stand a chance with this shark =P

7 comments:

FlipFlopsBoy said...

It's just one of those things you have to take carefully...like swimming with sharks, as you say!

Trevor said...

Sometimes we wouldn't take the risk as we are afraid of the outcome... and we are too far to hold on on it...
But who knows what's goin' on next...
I'll used to befriended... If that crush is supposed to happen...
Both guys should have the same kind of feelings... And love in between will grow spontaneously...
Just take it as easy and natural as we can... As you say, that's ok with if being around him makes us happy, feeling good...
Always take it with a cheerful and genuine heart...
Everything will not be the same when we know how to look for it's "two-part"...
Perhaps, somewhere or sometimes in the future...
Who knows?
I'm always "available" for a "CRUSH"... "P

Shane said...

I work with 2 guys who are incredibly hot and both know I'm gay and both know that I want them.
After 6 years of working together and hanging out together we've become close friends and I know nothing will ever happen but it's always nice to day dream about it although some days can be really frustrating knowing I can't have them!

ted said...

I am now having a crush on my workmate! I don't know whether he is straight or bi or gay.

I really wanted o take my 'move' and tell him but I am just too afraid of losing him. Next week onwards, we will be working in different places and we will seldom have a chance to see each other.

Sigh~

Tom said...

Personally, my first crush was my 100% straight best friend (typical eh?). I was afraid that I will lose him (hmm...I still am!!), so I did not say anything. But everytime he touched me or hugged me, I was very happy! Now,4 years later,still friends but not that close, my love for him is the same but not that intense!I am afraid to take risks as as you see and I am sick of it!!So I suggest you try to find which is his opinion about being gay and stuff reffering to a gay parade or a gay character on tv...or sth else! If he does not accept gay people then forget the coming out part. If he is ok with gay guys, try to show him that you are gay e.g by staring at a guy when you are outh with him.Or you could say something like this: "Hey James, I found a very cool site on the internet (your site), you should definetely see it!!"...just kidding! I hope everything works out for you as you want!

Anonymous said...

Over the last 30 years I've had numerous crushes on Str8 guys. Regardless of orientation dudes are insecure, they crave praise, admiration and even mere attention. Thay also are all obsessed with sex, cock is our common crest, and anal sex is the Big dark territory. Also many Str8 dudes (at least in Europe) are not that afraid of fooling around with someone they like as long as they trust you to not brag about it. I've always used seduction in a very manly way : challenges, competition. And I've must have bedded a good dozen hot numbers. Sometimes after years of stealth conquest (used to have several projects at the same time) I've had 3 secret relationships of more than a year and one lasted 8 years with biweekly very secret and very hot meetings. And you know what? many str8 dudes won't kiss, but with a gay guy they will play bottom, they assume they have to... ( plus they are not aroused by your body but by your lust for them and by being taken) many are turned on by assertive men they can look up to. So if you want a guy, don't play coy and girlie on him: make him believe you're more of a man than he thinks he is...

Anonymous said...

I fell in love with my best friend and waited 2 years to tell him. He wasn't interested (and completely straight) and we nearly lost our friendship because both of us had trouble coping with both my love for him and his inability to reciprocate. But now after a lot of talking and communicating we're the best of friends again and I think we'll always be, no matter what. Seriously, if we can get over that.