Saturday, July 19, 2008

Long Live TMOP...

Yes, that's right, this is the official 500th post since I started TMOP. I know it's just a number but it's an important number to me and an indication of the blog's continuing success! So, thank you for being a part of that success!

Having said that, today has not been a happy day for me as I've ruined my potential 'date'. Remember the guy I met recently for a drink? Well, we had been exchanging text messages for the whole week and I could sort of tell he's really into me. Unfortunately, I just don't feel the same way as him. I mean, don't get me wrong, I like the guy (as a friend) but I just want things to go a little slower.

Like tonight, we were supposed to go out for dinner and cinema, but then I received one of his messages in the afternoon saying "Will I get a kiss from you tonight?" And without thinking, I replied "Hell No!" Yes, maybe you are right, maybe I'm taking his message far too serious, but at the same time, this is not a hookup and I don't wanna jump into a relationship with someone and later realised that he's not the ideal match for me. The problem is that he sees the whole dinner and cinema is yet another 'date' and if I'm just after friendship, then I'm a time-waster (he actually said that to me).

Seriously, I always wondered if it takes time for someone to fall in love with you, or does it happen right away. And how long is it suppose to take or will it ever happen? To me, I still believe it takes some time for people to realize the depth of their feelings for one another. As my mama said, you can't hurry love, right? Please correct me if I'm wrong.

9 comments:

JasonStaggy said...

Congrats on post 500 :)

And you're right, you can't hurry love and you can't slow it down either. It creeps up and grabs you just when you least expect it.

*Hug*

Sven said...

Congratulations to your 500th post!

I'm stopping daily by your blog and enjoy the insights on your life and the themes and guys you make me aware of.

Thanks so much for your efforts!

Justin said...

Hey Pr8; congrats for the 500, and you're doing the most important thing in terms of friendship and dating: you're being honest, keeping your sense of humor, and thinking of the guy's feelings as well as the reality of what tomorrow holds in your happiness as well. To me, love takes time and consideration; 'love at first sight' to me is a romantic idea but isn't actually love to me. It's attraction, lust, anticipation, and infatuation (good word!). Let him know why you feel the way you do, and try to be as direct and true as possible.

Anonymous said...

unrequited

flattered

Aschwin_Frank said...

SUPER!!! Congratzzz for the 500th !!!

Anonymous said...

Too bad, that kiss could have pushed you over the edge...

Kisses are like that.

Joseph said...

I'm so happy for your 500th post, cupcake (& for the 499 before).

In French, I would say that at first sight you can be (1)'amoureux', but it takes time to (2)'aimer' someone. I'm not sure if I can translate these words with being (1)'in love' & (2)'love' someone?... As I want to be sure & make you the most confused possible, I wanna ad that even if you can sometimes develop a strong love for someone you have known for a long time, you often get to have a special sparkle at least to begin with.
Justin is definitely right about the importance of honesty & the last anonymous about the power behold in a kiss.

Joseph said...

Hi it's me again, I know I ask it a lot but: is the 500 pic, a pic of you?

Anonymous said...

"Unrequited" love is the most difficult love. A guy I dated used the "L" word on the second date, and I refused to use it until I meant it. Sadly, I fell into the trap of the automatic response, "I love you ,too," shortly thereafter. Finally I had "the talk" about real feelings and he had a presonal ad within the week and dumped me within the month. So much for growing in love rather than falling! So much for emotional honesty. ---BigBadJon---