Monday, September 08, 2008

Sad But True...

Obviously there are various reasons why loads of hot men out there are still single (like me, hehe) but why though?

I guess for me, partly because I want something more than just an ass to f*ck or a cock to suck. Yes, I'm still looking for Mr. Right but I just can't find him. Also after watching Brokeback Mountain, I learnt that I'm more the Ennis character, and I tend to fall for the Jack character. As long as I'm still in the closet, I know I can never be with him how he wants it, so it goes on and on. He can pushes for more, but it'll never goes deeper nor out and proud, even though it may lasts a good while, but never truly a couple. I know all of this sounds a bit selfish but maybe that's why I'm still single because I don't wanna hurt anyone.

So, what about all you singles out there? Is it easier to be single? Does it ever annoy you that you're still alone?

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

hmmm... it doesn't sound to my like you hurt anybody or could even hurt someone - because as you are writing: you "never goes deeper".

the only person you are hurting is yourself - because you loose all the wonderful time you could have in a deep and truly relationship... wake up!

;-)

great blob by the way....

thegayte-keeper said...

when I was single (which was 3 years by the way) I told myself that the man that I want AND need just wasn't ready for me and I was right...now I couldn't be happier so hold on...it won't be long

josh_775 said...

i have been single for more than 2 years and to be honest, i am pretty happy with the situation. Not that I have not tried but i am just happy being single and not having to go through the ups and downs of a relationship.

I guess i have been there and done that and life is more to it than just loving one person. it is about giving it meaning and building relationships that lasts a life time like friendships, family and society at large. Once you realise that love can be given not only to one but to many... it adds so much more meaning to it. by the way am not into polygamy or open relationships.

well i have been attached 5 times and I will have to say all of the experiences were memorable and best of all they are truly close frens of mine now.

do not make the mistake of trying to fill a void that u have not defined. it will only be a bottomless pit that you keep filling and u wonder why this void is never fulfilled.

cheers

Ben Jones said...

i'm 22 and have never had a relationship but would like to have one. to me, the thought of waking up next to someone whom i love and who loves me is something worth waiting for. I'm sure someone is out there who wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them, but I do have certain requirements and I'm wary of letting wanton loneliness take over and pull me into a relationship or a situation where I'm manipulated or where I have to sacrifice any part of myself to be with someone. Bottom line, do I want to be single? not really, but its my current reality, so i'll deal with it in the best way I know how and still continue to hold out hope that someone is out there who can rock my world.

Tenchibrl said...

No, it's not easier to be single and it drives me nuts being alone. I always find guys with so much baggage =(

Jere said...

You are single because you judge with your eyes before you ever hear a word! Even if you try not to be this way! Look only as far as your Blog! we worship Beauty and judge with our eyes and not for the soul! Try the next time you Browse a dateing site see if you even READ! this Chemistry site at msn you are 8 times more chance of contact with picture!!! I think it's a GENE like being GAY Peace single Jere

JamTheCat said...

It's absurd to judge others based on your own beliefs, needs and prejudices. No two pair of shoes are exactly alike; they wear differently for each person, so even if you walk in someone else's, you cannot experience them as they did. It's impossible. It's like with "Brokeback Mountain" -- I read the original short story and wasn't affected. It felt artificial to me. I saw the movie and bawled for all I had never allowed myself to be part of, like Ennis.

You see, I've never been in a long-term relationship. Some of this was because of the men I chased. Some because it was illegal until just recently in Texas (where I grew up). Some because of physical limitations on my part. And some was just plain fear of being hurt (as I was many times when much younger). I even went through a period where, for many years, I pretended to be straight...though I never went so far as to get married or even sleep with a woman. Then, as my friends died, one after the other from AIDS, I closed myself off. I'm now at a point where it's too late to have something like this.

Sometimes my heart still hurts from my deliberate closeting of it...but at least I can put my thoughts and dreams into my writing and my art and feel warmth from the moments where I lose myself in them...even as I know how fleeting that warmth is.

I guess I mean to say -- don't wind up like me. It's lonely and hard and limiting in the extreme, and what freedom you have is nothing compared to the support you would gain from being with someone you love. And in today's world, in London, your choices are so much more accepted than just thirty years ago.

Anonymous said...

I'm single and it is not often easy to be alone ... In fact, getting up in the morning without any side without its smell, without having someone to talk during meals is quite difficult.
And then we must be able to find just the right guy
Mikele

musicbuff said...

I am single and have so for 8 yrs. I got fed up with the whole gay lifestyle. Face it guy's-we as a community live beyond our mean to show off what we have where we live what car we drive and the label on our chlothes!!!. I am just an average guy,I don't go to bars as I am not a "model boi" and am basicly shuned by anyone there. We gay people judge each other more harshly than anyone. I know this first hand as I am a cook in a straight bar. We even have bikers that frequent. And after 1 1/2 yrs.I have yet to have one person say an unkind word!!!!. There are about 3 people who will not speak but, that is ok.at least they keep thiere comments to themselves!. I hope to one day find the right guy.until then I will stay by myself and be a workaholic and listen to my music and read my books and finish my short stories I have been writting for 2 years.

Anonymous said...

you have to learn to truly love yourself before you can find true love. when you truly love yourself you will find the strength and courage to come out. no, its not all sunshine and rainbows. unfortunately "happily ever after" doesn't just happen. love is a choice. once you find the one you want to make it work with, you both have to work towards love to keep it.

-recently heart broken