Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Why Why Tell Me Why...

First of all, sorry for the late update guys, been very busy with stuff so I haven't had time to update the blog over the weekend.

Anyway, as some of you might know, I signed myself up with GMFA as a volunteer (WooHoo) and had recently attended my first meeting with the FS Editorial Group to discuss the content for the final issue of the magazine. It's truly a great experience to get involve in some intel- lectual discussion and brainstorming sessions on various gay issues, and one of them was asking about:

For a moment, I asked myself, "Yeah, why exactly?" I mean, surely it's something most of us would like to know before sex or relationship, but yet, we barely talked about it. Was it such a bad idea to reveal each others' HIV status? Was it a total put-off to be an HIV-positive? Was it easier to get on with the 'action' without thinking about it? And finally, if you decided to talk about it, what's the best way to pop the question? Are you clean? Do you play safe? Are you HIV-positive? Can you show me your latest report of your HIV test?

4 comments:

athi said...

great point... but my english is not that good to write what i want :)

dougie said...

We currently have an advert campaign here in Canada with ads saying "if you were rejected every time you revealed, would you?". It is a good point, none of us want s rejection. A friend of mine who is HIV+ belongs to a sex group whom are all HIV+ so they need not worry about the disclosure part of things. Personally I figure if you are safe, why worry about it?

Anonymous said...

If you accept yourself and your HIV status the others are more kind with you. I'm HIV since 1989. It's only a little part of myself and not all my life. Saying the things is not so hard.

Francesco

Anonymous said...

The sad fact is that alot of gay men at least in my city refuse to test for HIV. They would rather not know their status. They continue to play unsafe and some no doubt are spreading the virus, and at the same time they will claim they are HIV- because they had a test a couple of years ago. Then for those guys that have tested HIV+ and are honest they are shunned by guys that don't test or simply lie.