Thursday, May 14, 2009

'Stright-Acting' Gay...

I admit that most of the guys that I've been attracted to can be thought of as 'straight-acting'. At the same time, while I don't have a problem with the set of attributes that what people usually associate as 'straight-acting', I do have a thing with the term itself.

As far as I concern, I've never described myself as 'straight-acting', like it's something I'd put in my résumé as a term used to describe me, but in a way, that's how I see myself. I guess you can call it whatever you wanna call it. I don't have a lisp, I don't flail my wrists around and make all kinds of grandiose gestures, I'm not the greatest when it comes to fashion, etc. A lot of the qualities that many people consider to be associated with gay people, I don't have. I'm pretty much your average gay Joe, whatever label you want to put on that.

So I'll probably chewed out for mentioning those things, but like it or not, that's what a lot of people associate with gays. Of course, being a gay person, I know that gay people don't always exhibit these quali- ties, but other people who only know about stereotypes apparently don't know that. Like I said, you can call it whatever you wanna call it. A normal guy? A normal gay guy? A gay guy? Just don't label yourself as 'straight-acting' when you ain't straight! BE PROUD. BE YOURSELF!

7 comments:

thegayte-keeper said...

like you say, BE YOURSELF...

GayPornFans said...

I totally agree! To me the term "straight acting" implies you're pretending to be something you're not. I'm just me! I just don't happen to be camp or effeminate.

jared said...

A guy isn't so 'straight-acting' with a cock in his mouth...

JamTheCat said...

To me, "straight-acting" is an insult. I can't tell you how many acquaintances of mine tell me they never realized I was gay till they got to know me, as if it's something that should be obvious (like skin color) or explained (like why don't my wrists go limp or my pinkie rise when I sip my tea) or tattooed on my forehead (like they did to the Jews in Germany so they could keep them separate from the REAL Germans). I've actually gotten to where, when someone tells me I act straight, I say, "Really? 'Cause I think you act gay, even though I know you're not." Obnoxious on my part, but sometimes the expressions on their faces are priceless.

Anonymous said...

I just describe myself as masculine - nothing wrong or untrue about that. Also prefer other masculine guys - otherwise, why else would I like men?

Anonymous said...

I totally agree. Labels are meaningless. One should just be who he is and embrace it. It's the only way you can live with yourself. Being 'gay' doesn't necessarily mean being affeminate...

BTW, you are pretty hot yourself. ;) good job mate.

Robert said...

I must agree, now, that is, I caught myself the other day describing the perfect man for me and used the term straight acting. I realsied seconds after the mouth engaged and the brainlater caught up, that I was trying to say a man who is masculine and when his flame is on its not hot enough to singe eye brows from 3 feet.