Sunday, September 27, 2009

Time After Time...

Has this happen to you (yes) or have you done it (no)? You have been talking to guy online for a week now. You have great conversations and seem to have a lot in common. He makes you laugh and you always get excited when you are able to catch him online for a chat. You finally make plans to get together.

You meet up for a dinner. You feel the conversation is flowing just like online. You are having a great time and it appears he is enjoying himself as well. You laugh, you flirt, and you tease. It is a great date and things are going so well. By the end of the night you say your goodbyes and he smiles and says, "I will give you a call soon."

You drive/walk/take the train home thinking of your great date, you are so excited for the next and now you wait for the call. The call which never comes... Why?

3 comments:

Adam said...

If I had to guess, I'd say he just didn't felt the same click you did, and was just being polite during the date... Yes, it's happened to me and it sucks...

The book "he's just not that into you" comes to my mind now... I think it should be a mandatory reading for women and gay men.

Adam (mrelife.blogspot.com)

Randy said...

Lots of reasons. One is fear -- the "I don't think he likes me as much as I like him" fear. Or, "he'll reject me anyway soon enough, so I might as well beat him to the punch."

Another reason? "I can do better." Things went so well, and you aren't a troll, it makes me feel that I might be able to get a guy with a better body, sexier attitude or something else I'm looking for.

Or, you start thinking about all the negatives -- he lives with a roommate I don't like, or he lives far away and it take a long time to get together, or he said something that disturbed me, or whatever.

Some these are rooted in low self esteem or other issues. Believe me, I've been there. And I've had this happen to me many times. I don't quite know what to do when it happens to me, but the smart thing is to probably call the guy up and make another date. That will set his mind at ease if it's an esteem issue. But if he's just trying bed the hottest guy he can find, you don't want him anyway.

Anonymous said...

the two comments before me....i think this happens to most amongst us. sad but true..."you're not good enough for me... "i try another guy"... atitude... it sucks...