Saturday, June 26, 2010

No String Attached...

So I'm now back on the infamous Gaydar (I know!) and it feels like catching up with a nasty old friend - always sexy and sleazy, but never easy. Anyway, other than those single super hot guys who shouldn't be single, I lately notice that there's also a good handful of so-called SGM or SBM, who are still looking for NSA fun even though they already have a boyfriend, a girlfriend, a husband or a wife (not to mention kids) as part of their life! But why? Aren't they happy to have SOMEONE in their lives?

Seriously, I've nothing against them, it's entirely their choice, but it really bugs me that they don't know how lucky they are! I mean, is the effect of testosterone that powerful to defy love? Or is there love?

To me, sharing live with the one you love is more valuable than anything. So if I found him one day, I swear to God and to myself that I'll cherish and devoted to him, love him with all my heart, and I just hope/pray/wish he'll do the same instead of finding him on Gaydar.

7 comments:

Jeremiah Andrews said...

Maybe this is a sign that you really don't need Gaydar. That maybe you should just go on with your life and pay attention to the omens and meet Mr. Right - the right way, instead of mr. right now, the wrong way.

Hormones are dastardly things. People usually don't know what they have until they go and fuck it up and loose it.

Stay away from internet hookups and bide your time and wait and see right there in your own back yard.

You have too much going for you now to mix it up and do something stupid.

Only you can decide what to do now.

Jeremy

twinkly said...

You wrote "To me, sharing live with the one you love is more valuable than anything. So if I found him one day, I swear to God and to myself that I'll cherish and devoted to him, love him with all my heart, and I just hope/pray/wish he'll do the same instead of finding him on Gaydar."

I could not agree more. I recently left Gaydar because of the fake members who wanted nothing more than a "quickie" after which they would go home to the wife or their partner.

If/when I meet someone - feeling more unlikely as the years fly by - I will cherish and love them with all my heart and hope to God they appreciate it. Being taken for granted and then abused for the most minor thing is not for me.
True love is. I really hope it's out there for you, for me, and for others looking for the same.

Peter S - Australia

Anonymous said...

Sorry, What does SGM, SBM and NSA means?

PR8 said...

SGM = Single Gay Male
SBM = Single Bi Male
NSA = No String Attached

twinkly said...

Yep. What Jeremy said is true. You are a great guy and that special man is out there for you.
Time - it can be a pain but it's something we all have to endure. You'll find the right man when you least expect it.
Will be wishing on the next falling star I see, for your happiness.
Hugs from the land down under.

PR8 said...

Thank you very much! I'll be patient!

Darryl said...

Jeremy and Twinkly gave you good advice. From experience I can tell you that living one's life and allowing the "right" guy to appear organically is the only way to go. Sites like "mancunt" and "gaybar" are made up of the same folks screwing each other (I couldn't resist).
As I've shared with you in the past, if you listen to your heart and couple wisely you will find another who will cherish you as much as you cherish them. Life is hardly perfect, but the highs are twice as high and the lows are half as low when someone is there to share them with you.
You ARE a super fellow my friend! I predict that you'll do well with love when the time is correct.

Love from Darryl in Atlanta