Following up on my previous post on the recent bullying and suicides of gay youth across America, which supposedly the most liberal and open-minded country in the world, it makes me wonder what's it really like to be a gay American teen? And will it really get better?
First of all, I think I can kinda relate myself to some of these teens. I mean, culturally, being gay and Chinese is quite a contradiction. Being gay means wild, bold, sexual, and modern, while being Chinese means tame, obedient, asexual, and traditional. That's why I went in to hiding/pretending, I was afraid to come out in school, in university, in my 20s because, well, it's scary to be 'different', to be made fun of, to be alone. Did I make the right choice? Yes and no. I mean, I didn't get bullied or picked-on, but at the same time, I wasn't my true self either. Yes, I sacrificed my happiness for a life of security. Was it really worth the price I paid? Back then, yes, but now? Hell no!
So, will it get better? Of course I really hope It Gets Better, but I think there need to be more mainstream examples of how adults are succeeding (or struggling) as gay adults. Though celebrities do have a public platform, it may not be the most realistic platform. More realistic role models would lead to more realistic expectations. So though I applaud their efforts, I think we need more than celebrities to address this issue. Having said that, it's good that people are aware of the problem and are doing their part to help!