Thursday, January 06, 2011

Sticky Rice...

Hey there, I just came accross this very interesting (yet reflective) article, The Truth About Gay Asian Men, which is so relevant to me and the majority of gay Asian population aross the world.

As a 'non-stereotypical' gay Asian man who is more fond to Caucasian men, I've wondered a lot about this topic myself. I spent most of my life (since age 14) around Caucasians and am attracted to the features that are more common in them or are never found in Asians (blue eyes, facial hair, strong nose, etc.). The say attraction is in the eye of the beholder. For me, I guess this is simply because this is the look I'm used to, which has nothing to do with racial stereotypes.

Of course, I would never say I'm a 100% 'potato queens' cuz anyone can win my heart by love, care and trust =]

6 comments:

dougie64 said...

I remember a time when Asians were not allowed in some of the gay clubs here in Toronto. It is an interesting article. I myself have never considered race relevant, so I have dated many men, some white, some black and some Asian. My husband is of mixed Dutch Indonesian so has very Asian features. There was an article written some years ago on this topic and one of the things they found was that Asian men who worked out and were muscled and were into Caucasian men often had no problem with finding partners of the same age group whereas the more effeminate Asians often had to settle(?) for older white men.

Nick said...

we love what we see in our daily life...

kbeachboy said...

from te other side I can never have enough of Asian guys.

BosGuy said...

I've never heard the term 'potato queen' before - it made me laugh out loud.

twinklyenterprise@gmail.com said...

We are who we are and who we attract and who we are attracted to has a lot to do with, I think, fate - for want of a better word.
Personally I love the philosophy I have encountered in many Asian men and yes, I am attracted to Asian men for many reasons whether they are "muscled" or not; masculine or not, and masculinity comes in many, many forms.
But, at the end of the day, if someone is attracted to me and me to them it matters not what they look like nor where they are from. Provided there is love and trust and truth then the relationship has a good chance of working. Without those elements, then I think there cannot be a full and true relationship.
As I head toward my mid 50s, I'd love the chance to find a little romance with a trusting and care and love. And yes, I have been labelled a "Rice Queen".
All applications welcome ;-)

tumSjunkcie said...

It's something I've pondered as well. And I think I've arrived at a similar conclusion (at least the way in which this manifests itself). Traveling to Asian countries is helpful in rebalancing. I think learning to step outside of one's every day "norms" is refreshing, like stepping through the looking glass. Great post. Looking forward to hopping to the pond and enjoying the sites in London!