Tuesday, August 02, 2011

To Swim Or To Sink...

Beside being able to dance to Gaga's Bad Romance in G-A-Y, to me, gay people have a chance to grow that 'normal' people don't.

We definitely have to think more, deeper, to swim or to sink, to deal with challenges which show you different perspectives of life and reach higher self completion. Coming out (easy to be said than done) sweeps away the hypocritical masks, leave you with friends/families who are true. I'm glad (sometimes) I'm gay, because, think about it, straights can't be that lucky! They don't have such a rare chance to grow!

Bad side? Being gay is just that - to sink or to swim. You can swim, you are lucky. Sink? Suicide, self destruction or in denial. Enough said.


Alex said...

You make a good point--we have to come out, well, if we choose to. Straight people don't have to come out to anybody as being straight. I don't really know if it was a growing point for myself though, my friends all knew because all my friends were pretty much gay, or at least not the normal kids at school. As for my family, I choose for a long time not to tell them, I didn't feel it was any of their business, because for the most part they, or at least my mother, didn't play an active role in my life. It was forced out of me in the end, my mom just kept asking, and it pissed me off. She couldn't take the time to learn more about who I am, what I want, what my dreams are, but it was absolutely important that she know I was gay. I don't know, everybody's family is different. Everybody's life is different.

Anonymous said...

I agree with you 100%. Im 34 and when I came out in my 20's we couldnt show the same effection to those we find attractive. Like holding hands, kissing and just being close. There is alot more understanding now but you still recieve weird glances and even experianced a straight couple snickering at me and my bf just they other day. Sucks but you just have to remember where youve been and what it took to get you there. Then you can hold your head up Hi and say Fuckem!

PR8 said...

Your comments not only help me but also help others as well! Thanks a million guys!

Darryl said...


You now prove that you really "DO GET IT"! It is a privilege to be gay even considering the many injustices we all encounter. Yes we do suffer more, but we create true families and have a depth of empathy and compassion which many heterosexuals never acquire.

It always "burns me" when I hear some member of our LGBTQ community proclaim that their sexuality is not relevant to who they are .... RUBBISH! Your sexuality and what you endure to express yourself freely is something which heterosexuals (or bisexuals who blend in) can NEVER truly understand.

Yes there are many persecuted classes, but few are aggressively and openly preached against in virtually all religions and many shallow politicians seeking cheap gains in elections (also in virtually all cultures). The fact that we don't become so emotionally crippled, mean and cruel as a group is truly a testament to our strength and fortitude.

You can "swim or sink" ... no truer words have ever been spoken. For those of us who have chosen to "swim", it is incumbent upon us to help guide and lead the most vulnerable among us!

Darryl in Atlanta

A.d. said...

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