It was a glorious sunny day today so my housemates and I decided to head off to the 'famous' men's bathing pond in Hampstead Heath. I had heard SO much about it but it was the first time since I moved to London and, as expected, on a hot (30C) Sunday it was jam packed with men (mostly gay) of all shapes and sizes flaunting not just their designer speedos, but the time, money and hard work that they had put in the gym. Good on them =] My only regret of the day? Well, I forgot to bring my bloody camera along!
Woohoo! By a 33-29 vote, New York's state Senate on Friday passed legislation making gay marriage legal. Governor Andrew Cuomo is expected to sign the bill into law, making the Empire State the sixth and largest state to adopt same-sex marriage rights.
Seriously, I'm SO happy for you guys and I wish you all a happy happy married life =]
EVERYONE deserves the FREEDOM TO LOVE no matter gay, straight or bi, lesbian, transgendered life. So, I was very touched and proud when I received an e-mail from one of my blog followers all the way from Singapore telling me that he had a fun and sweaty Saturday with 10,000 other pink-attired Singaporeans at the Pink Dot 2011=]
Contrasted with her usual shocking and outrageous style, which have been truly epic productions, The Edge of Glory suddenly doesn't feel like your 'typical' Lady Gaga music video. Which is probably precisely what she's going for.
The '80s-inspired power ballad, which premiered last night in the U.S., pays homage to her native New York City and videos of yore.
Remember when MTV used to play videos like this? Or at all? No? Anyway, the video also features saxophonist Clarence Clemons, who recently suffered a stroke. Check it out below and see what you think:
"Stupid 'brunet' with a lot of storms in my head. Not so down-to-earth, but always dragged down by someone around. Usually based in London SW but travel sometimes. Not into webcams, but I do have one... lol! I'm also on Grindr so feel free to chat me up. Have a bf, by the way..."
Don't you just love the way he saves the bf bit till the very end? Oh well, at least he's honest about it =P
Besides the unpredictable British weather, there were two things that made my Saturday 'interesting'. The first was the annual London Naked Bike Ride, which I didn't participate nor attend. However, my landlord (who was extremely excited about the whole thing) kindly shared few of his precious photos with me, so here's one cute one!
The second was the fact that my landlord (again!) and his partner took me to a sex bar/club called Vault 139. I've heard 'stories' about the place but I've never been there myself. Anyway, some of you might remember how uncomfortable I was with my first (and last) darkroom experience, well, Vault 139 was like a déjà vu. Seeing all sort of men cruising around and doing 'things' with one another so openly where anyone could join in on them was a bit turn off for me.
But don't get me wrong, the place was clean and safe, and if you're looking for a bit of fun NSA action (from groping to whatever...) with your clothes on (or off when you choose to do so) then it's a perfect place to visit. The problem was, it just didn't work for me.
After you read this post, make sure you head over to BENT as New York based photographer David Arnot is kind enough to give away a copy of ONE, his new coffee table photo book, to one lucky person! So what do you need to win it? Well, how about a camera, a mobile phone, a webcam or anything that can capture a sexy image of yourself?
Josey Greenwell is an amazing country singer who is also easy on the eyes. And while he's still in love with Judas, I've fallen in love with his arms, his charm, his music and his smile! And make sure you check out his website to listen to his other work.
Dear All, I finally did it. I told Mr. T everything that I wanted to tell him for the past year and a half and we ended our friendship for the best. I cried. He comforted. It all went smoothly yet painfully (at least for me). Well, at least now I can move on with my life and put this stressful episode behind me. So what will the future hold? I dunno. I'll still go to operas, just without Mr. T...
Here are two emails I received recently from two blog readers. Thank you so much for caring about me and making sure I'm okay. I really appreciate it. I'm still alive just a little bit down with everything right now, but I won't let you down! I promise.
Life goes on and so should you. Take this as something that strengthen your soul. You can still care about him, but don't expect him to return the favour. Go and experience life. You will fall from time to time and each time might hurt worse than before. That's not important as long as you are willing to rise again (even higher than before). Rise and fall, that's the game as long as you won't give up you will be just fine.
Just remember what goes around, comes around. Now be brave, take your grieving time and remember to move on. At least you know you are capable of loving some one!
Don't forget, take it easy; one step after another and if you are tired take some rest then continue your journey.
Unfortunately it takes that sort of experience to understand the true dynamics of unrequited relationships. You carry a torch for a fellow who feels comfortable with you and who appears to like you except that he is unaffected by your attraction to him. One sided relationships are a huge ego boost for the pursued yet are torture for the pursuer and therefor have NO future.
Saying goodbye to the pursued is horribly difficult, yet absolutely necessary for any healing to begin (or take root). Will, you MUST politely make yourself unavailable when he calls for your companion- ship when he needs you around. He already knows how you feel, but believes that his declaration of a lack of interest early on absolves him of any responsibility towards you and your feelings. This on its own merit causes me to not like "Mr T" very much certainly as a "friend".
I've asked you many times in the past to take care of your own feelings first and foremost. I know that you are a sensitive guy and won't devolve into a "jerk". I also know how difficult it can be when you are surrounded by people yet feel a genuine loneliness for love and companionship. This is common within huge cities, many of my youth suffer from this too, and many of my longterm pals who have lost spouses feel this way.
Desire for erotic and intimate love is important among all humans and especially so with homosexual males. Lesbians can "pass" and settle more easily than gay men. Add to that the fact that our patriarchal world is attracted to the idea of two females together also giving them an upper hand. We can be the most desirous of true intimacy, yet our very sex drive can get in our way giving credence to our "objectified ideal" vs one who is truly our other half (to me this is "Mr T's" problem). There is no easy fix, and no guarantees.
You'll be okay Will if you "Stick to your guns" and move on to never look back. Then if you see "Mr T" again it won't hurt that much as you will have moved on and probably found someone A LOT better!!
This post is dedicated to all my friends who have patiently listened and comforted me for the past couple of days. Really, I feel much BETTER now! So, thanks a million, especially to Darryl, Pete, Steve, Simon, b3nc0, Nadine, Tarun, Manuel, Kris and Dom =]